You have dreams and aspirations, but you never seem to be able to make them happen. You’ve spent your whole life struggling for a breakthrough, and you’re sick of the struggle. You don’t know what you’re doing wrong or why your plans just aren’t working. You want 2018 to be different, but you don’t know how to make that happen.
I was right where you are last year at this time. For 36 years, I’d dreamed of owning my own business, and all I had to show for those dreams were a lot of debts, heartaches, heartbreaks, and failures. Fortunately for me, I found the best business coach in the world. A year later, I have a $2.5 million dollar plan that is coming together faster than anybody ever thought possible and I’m ready to share the secrets of what it took for me to get here. Here are the 5 things that are killing your dreams.
1. You Believe the Lie
You are a liar. Oh, you don’t think you’re lying and you’re not even aware that you’re lying. This is a lie you’ve been told so often you believe that it’s true. But it isn’t. Want to know what that lie is?
“I don’t have enough time.”
If you are like most people, those words have come out of your mouth anytime you are challenged to do the work you need to do in order to achieve your dreams. It’s a lie. We all get the same 24 hours in a day as everyone else. It isn’t the amount of time you have that’s the problem. It’s what you’re doing with your time that is causing you to fail. If you want help with finding the time you need, I wrote the book on that.
2. You Doubt Yourself.
You don’t believe that you have what it takes to succeed. For every plan you create, you stuff it in a corner and tell yourself it’s not good enough. It’s not going to work. And you prove yourself right because you don’t succeed.
You doubt because you lack the courage to put your work out there and allow it to be tested.
Don’t feel bad. I used to do this to myself all the time. I was so afraid of failure, so afraid that I would be rejected, that I would create wonderful things and then shove them in the back corner of a desk drawer where they did nobody – me included – any good. You have to stop doing that to yourself. Take them out of the desk drawer. Allow them to be put in front of people so they can be tested. It’s the only way to find out which of your ideas are worth pursuing and which still need work or improvement.
3. You Aren’t CLEAR About What You Want
Until you know exactly what it is you want out of life, you can’t expect to get it. You can’t even begin to put a plan together that will help you get started. And you can’t recruit other people to help you because you’re just not CLEAR about what you want.
Clear means that what you want is concrete, life changing, evergreen (lasts through all seasons), achievable, and rewarding. You should be able to visualize it, verbalize it, and strategize it.
You Lack Commitment To Your Dreams
You fear you’re going to fail, and so you’re wasting all of your energy building back doors, bridges, and “just in case” strategies that lead you away from your dream rather than toward it and this is exactly why you fail to achieve what you desire to achieve. Achieving anything great requires you to be laser focused on your goals, with no hesitation and no flinching.
I’ve been there, and I get it. I had a lot of reasons to fear failure. I’d failed plenty of times. It wasn’t until my business coach pointed out to me that the reason I wasn’t succeeding was that I was wasting all my energy on all of this planning for failure that I wasn’t giving myself the space or leaving myself the energy to create the plans that would lead me to my dreams.
You were born to do great things. You weren’t born to hide in the shadows, playing it small, allowing yourself to live for other people’s dreams. So stop playing small, commit to your dreams, and make them happen. Burn the bridges behind you so that there is only one way forward -> Success! Leave yourself no retreat, no space to wriggle out, no way to back down from the challenges that will come.
You Aren’t Dreaming Big Enough
You’ve forgotten how to dream. You’ve settled for changing your own life, and you’ve given up hope that you can change the world. You were told, so often that you believed it, that big changes in the world come from big people and you’re not important enough to be able to make those big changes.
That’s a filthy, dirty, stinking lie.
You need to dream big enough that you find your $2.5 million dollar plan. That $2.5 million dollar plan will be what gets enough people excited about being part of it that they are willing to invest in helping you make your dreams come true, and you’ll need their help to do it. This isn’t a journey you’ll be able to make on your own.
If you are ready to get started learning to stop chasing your dreams and start attracting them to you, I’ve put together a FREE mini-ebook. You can find it here: Become a Dream Magnet